Lately, I have been noticing when people call me the wrong name. This isn't new, but it's starting to irritate me. Especially when I politely correct them, and they still get it wrong. I mean, up to dozens of times-if not more. Currently, at one of the facilities I work at, there's me-Elisa-then there's two Elsa's. For some reason, I keep getting called Elsa, even though I look completely different than the Elsa's, am much newer, and have a different name. Granted, it is similar, but even when they know that my name is Elisa, they pronounce it totally wrong. After multiple corrections. And it's not the fact that they pronounce it wrong that annoys me, but the fact that after I politely correct them, they wave a hand and say something to the effect of, "Oh I'm never gonna get that right." As if I should feel guilty for having a different name. And not even that different of a name. It's not like it's Shaniqua, or Hui Liu, or Vladlena or something totally foreign (literally).Anyway, it's a constant irritation, and something that I will be forever stuck with unless I put an 'A' in front of my name or add another 's'. Bah!!
3 comments:
Awesome
but there's your solution
Bah!!
just tell them how you feel
Bah!!
next time they ask your name again
Bah!!
Bahhhhh!!!
they'll get the picture
Brandon
Hi Elisa !
My sweet precious daughter-in-law, I am sorry for this thorn in the flesh that you have to carry - and you are right it is something you will have to deal with forever, but I love you. I love you for who you are. You are not defined by your name but by your precious gentle and beautiful spirit. By the quality person you have chosen to be. You being a women of high integrity and outstanding character. Elisa is a beautiful name and I can see this hurts you alot, and of course,I don't want you to hurt, especially when it has nothing to do with you, but with them not being able to remember and they are probably embarassed and it wouldn't do any good if you changed the spelling, anyway, they still would have difficulty with remembering or pronouncing. What words of wisdom do I have for you - a name is just your name stated wrongly by strangers, but you are loved by those of us who know and love you for who we know you are. And I am thinking there are alot of us. I am at the top of the list. Preceeded by your parents and Chris. I can see where it would become a bone of contention and quickly ruin your day, but you just can't let it. It will shut you down and you will no longer be effective in therapy or in loving on your clients.
What can we think of to make this a lighter situation, and less difficult for them? Can't Chris come up with some solution? !! Brandon's solution wouldn't fly if you want to keep your job. So we need to think of something! I love you very much and I am glad you are my daughter-in-law.
Love Forever, Mom
Yea, Chris, why haven't you thought of a solution? Thanks, Barb, for your concern. Maybe this is a more serious problem than I realized....I agree that the difficulty of my name has been an annoyance of mine, but it also makes me appreciate having it. It's different. So, my blog was more of a "venting" of a build-up of frustration. I love you, too, and thank you for your wisdom and encouragement.
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